Before you can post or reply in these forums, please our online community. the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak. I've been married Signs he love me 20yrs and we have 2 healthy children. We are financially stable. I know I should be happy but I feel depressed and stuck. I no longer want to be married.
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I care deeply about my husband, and he is a husband man, but he has always Meridian phone system repair totally closed off to his emotions. Since the beginning I felt rejected and alone when he wouldn't talk to me.
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I think it was then I started to shut him out the way I had always felt shut out by him. That was 8 years ago. He finally agreed to counselling about 2yrs ago but I feel like it's only scratched the surface. I've asked him to do extra reading or even his own therapy but he refuses. Intimacy is splitting a problem. The idea of having sex with him makes me so anxious I feel physically ill. I've read about sexless marriage, but I know my husband wouldn't handle that.
Sex is very important to him. I don't know how to feel connected to him anymore. I with think I want to.
I dream of asking him for a separation, but how? And it seems too cruel to Online telugu music listen my husband to move out. Should I stay until the kids are adults and waste another 10yrs of both of our lives? The alternative is to break my husband's heart and break up my family. But staying is just adding more layers to my resentment and I'm scared I'll end up hating him. Has anyone been through anything like this?
I need to take some action, because I can't stay in limbo. I'm not living just existing.
I relate to some of the things you are saying and Ladies in Morelia that love sex know, it's a tough call. You don't want to rock the boat in case things can be improved within the relationship but meanwhile, not much changes. Now I'm not suggesting you do this but, when my wife said 'I don't think we can keep going like this', that was enough for me to get help and start on some recovery for the things I had ignored for so husband.
It's great that you are seeing a counselor and perhaps you can talk to them about separation, you probably have what opportunities are left to get your hubby to the table and how to make that happen. Perhaps advice doesn't realize how seriously this is affecting you?
You say you want to take action, is that something you can do with the relationship? Can you start doing the things that you would like to do, or at least some of them, without your husband? Show him that you are just Avalon sex chat rooms to get on with it, whether he is coming or not.
I guess we have to weigh up the pros and cons. By the splitting, it sounds like you have given much care and compassion to your relationship, you have made many compromises for the sake of your family, you should be proud of that, not sad.
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Oh wow, I can relate to pretty much everything you have said. But I do understand the aloneness you feel. And I have started doing more things on my own or with friends for my own splitting health, but it only makes me too aware of the fact I have more fun without him.
Thanks so much Jack for saying I should be proud of still trying to improve things. I've had low self esteem, which made me believe I didn't have the right to ask him to make changes. Now that my self-image has improved and I'm standing up for myself more, Single lady seeking sex Laguna Beach it's too hard for him to handle.
I also fear I might use alcohol as a way to escape the tension, because having a couple of glasses of wine does relax me. Addiction runs in my family tho so that scares me a lot.
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I even mentioned my fear to him and he said I was overreacting. I might be craving space from him but never from my children. I feel like on one hand he is pushing me away while at the same time he's accusing me of running. I feel like nothing I do is right and I'm mentally exhausted from trying to figure it all out. I am very romantic at heart and my husband is a very simple man.
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I feel so lonely and tried to find work but not getting any despite having two post-graduate degrees. It feels like as if my life is doomed. Thanks Geoff your words are very kind Horny women in Flat Rock, IN helpful.
Communication has totally broken down and that is a big deal for me, even if he would rather put his head in the sand and hope it all blows over. I am trying to take care of myself but it's so hard to imagine putting my own needs ahead of my kids and even my husband.
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I've always put everyone else first, didn't realise I was such a people pleaser until recently, but it turns out i am and very susceptible to the slightest suggestion I'm not being Married and lonely senior chat 'good' person because of it.
Had a bad weekend when I felt so happy that husband left the house on Saturday night and I had the place to myself just me and the kids and it was so relaxing.
Sunday when it was all 4 of us again I drank a bit too much because I couldn't stand how sad I felt. Then last night up with insomnia, feeling miserable and sleeping on the couch because I can't even stand listening to him breathe next to me when the sadness grips me. I feel like a Sexuality test for guys person even if I tell Gamer girl dating I'm not times.
I know I can't go on like this and I think it is a matter of working out the ins and outs of how a separation works now, not just wondering if I should do it. This situation is making me mentally and physically unhealthy with stress, I'm over medicating with alcohol and overeating too.
But I'm heartbroken. I never understood how hard it was to wrestle with a decision like this I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Hi MiaM I'm so sorry you are struggling with the same issues. It is very hard and I sympathise. I hope you do continue to look for work as having that bit Gf wants a extra for a threesome independence can be very comforting.
I know despite my only being in part time admin work that is a bit boring and not best use of my degree that having a job helps me stay engaged with the world outside what is going on at home.
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Perhaps now is the husband to push him to attend counselling. I wish I had pushed harder 10yrs ago when he first refused because I think the time for saving us passed sometime around then. I wouldn't recommend you wait and just hope things get better on their own as I've done.
Make sure your husband knows how badly you need to address your issues now, as they won't get better with time. Take it from someone who knows. Thank you so much GoodWitch for posting this thread. I have felt like such an ungrateful malcontent for feeling I wanted more from my marriage than I was getting, I have felt like this for years Ehrlich testing kit but have lacked the courage to do anything about it.
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